How does it work?
Write or speak your side of what happened. Add your partner's side yourself, or invite them into a shared room with a six-character code so they can write their own. A few moments later you get a Peace Treaty: what each of you is really asking for, the ground you already share, and one specific next step.
Is there an app for relationship problems?
Yes. Deesca is a relationship app for couples, built for the moments you keep getting stuck: the argument that keeps coming back, the message you don't know how to answer, the conversation you can't find words for. You can use it on your own or together with your partner.
Is Deesca a relationship mediator app?
Yes. The Mediator takes both sides of an argument, from you alone or from both of you in a private shared room, and turns them into a Peace Treaty: what each of you needs, your common ground and one next step. It works any time, from your phone. It isn't a trained human mediator, and it isn't for legal or divorce mediation. How it works.
Can an app replace couples counseling?
No, and it shouldn't try to. Deesca helps with everyday conflict and communication, before or between counseling sessions. If problems have lasted a long time, after a betrayal, or if there's fear in the relationship, a couples counselor is the right choice, and some couples use both. Our guide Do we need couples counseling? can help you decide.
Does it work for married couples?
Yes. Deesca is for any couple: dating, living together or married. Because the Coach remembers your story, it suits the long-running patterns that marriages often have.
Does my partner have to use it too?
No. The Coach, the Red Flag Check and the Daily Reflection are just for you, and you can describe both sides in the Mediator yourself. A shared room is optional. If you open one, your partner joins on their own iPhone with their own account.
Can my partner see what I write?
No. In a shared room, each of you writes privately. Neither of you sees the other's words, only the guidance you both get back. Either of you can leave the room at any time.
Who can read my conversations?
Only you, from your account. Your sessions are stored so that only your account can open them. To write your guidance, the text you send goes to Anthropic's Claude, and voice notes go to OpenAI to be turned into text. Both work under terms that don't let them train their models on your content. Your email address isn't sent to either of them, and we don't keep the audio once it has been transcribed.
We don't sell your data or use it for ads. The details are in the Privacy Policy.
Will it just tell me I'm right?
No, and that's the point. Deesca looks at both sides with the same care, names what each of you might be missing, and avoids picking a winner. If you only want someone to agree with you, it will disappoint you a little.
Is this therapy?
No. Deesca is supportive coaching and reflection, not a therapist, and it doesn't diagnose anyone. It can help you understand an argument and plan the next conversation. If you feel unsafe or are in crisis, contact your local emergency services or a qualified professional.
What can I do for free?
You can try one mediation, three messages with your Coach and one Red Flag Check. The Daily Reflection, mood tracking and breathing sessions stay free. Premium unlocks everything else, without limits. You'll see the price in your own currency in the app before you pay.
How do I cancel?
In the app, open Settings and choose Manage subscription. You can also go to iPhone Settings, tap your name, then Subscriptions. Apple handles the billing, so cancelling takes a few taps and you keep Premium until the end of the period you paid for.
Can I delete everything?
Yes. Go to Settings and tap Delete account. This permanently erases your account and everything in it: sessions, reflections, your Coach's memory and your partner's details.
Which languages and devices?
Deesca is on iPhone in English, German, Spanish, French, Italian, Portuguese and Turkish. It follows your phone's language, and you can change it in Settings.
